Self-importance

How We Rope Others into Our Self-pity and Victimhood

In the last three posts, we’ve looked behind the masks we put on to disguise our self-pity and victim-hood. v     The mask of righteous anger v     The mask of grief…

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Mask # 3: Cynicism and Negativity in a Series on the Many Masks of Self-pity

It is not possible to be poised—present, connected, grateful, creative, or light-hearted—when we feel sorry for ourselves.  But we disguise our self-pity with several masks.  So far in this series…

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Mask # 2: Grief and Regret In a Series on the Many Masks of Self-Pity

We’re examining how self-pity destroys our poise and causes us to live a life half-crazy. Because our self-pity isn’t personally or socially attractive, we have developed masks to disguise it. …

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The Many Masks of Self-pity: Mask #1 Righteous Anger

Over the remaining days of 2013, we will take a look at the chief culprit when we lose our poise and act crazy yet one more time, even though we…

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Poise and Perspective

If we can finally sustain our poise—every day, every hour, no matter what is going on—we can avoid our tendencies to get upset over petty misunderstandings and develop an expansive,…

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Poised, We Don’t Stand in the Middle of the Road and Get Run Over

As we map the universe of poise here, we encounter some deep challenges to our understanding about the nature of reality.  We discover that many of the explanations we received…

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Maybe We Won’t Have to Forgive Others for the Rest of Our Lives

We all suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, usually—we think–at the hands of other people.  If we can’t find our way out of the suffering we believe is…

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The Fastest Way to Get Over Anything Part Two: The Warrior’s Fast Lane

My friend Linda has been suffering with a family problem for a long time.  Her divorced daughter-in-law, Sara, has been a force of anger, pain, and instability in the family…

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The Fastest Way to Get Over Anything Part One: The Slow Way Out of Suffering

This post examines the slow way to get over things that precipitate our suffering.  Next week Part Two will examine the fastest way out of suffering and how to avoid…

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Those People Who Bother You (Are You)

Self-importance is man’s greatest enemy.  What weakens him is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of his fellow men.  Self-importance requires that one spend most of one’s life offended…

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